It is common for a friend or family member to read a eulogy at a funeral. Funerals are difficult and emotional occasions, so being asked to deliver a eulogy can be a daunting task. Even the most experienced of public speakers struggle when having to write and read something heartfelt at a sad and testing time.
With many years experience in the funeral sector, Greenfield Coffins tries to provide advice and guidance regarding a whole range of elements, taking the pressure off those making funeral arrangements after just having lost a loved one.
Here we have compiled some useful hints and tips regarding how best to write and deliver an appropriate eulogy.
Reach Out for Support on the Day of the Funeral
If you are anxious about reading the eulogy and getting to the end, due to being overcome with emotion, then ensure you have a stand-in arranged. Often a friend or family member that wasn’t as close to the deceased is a good person to ask. Alternatively most vicars or those holding the ceremony will gladly be on hand to take over should you need support. Just knowing that there is someone to take the reigns, relieves the pressure from the outset.
Embrace the Memories and Tributes of Others
When writing the eulogy, speak to friends and family and ask for their input and memories. They may tell you stories that you weren’t even aware of. This process in itself can help with your own grief.
Write From the Heart
There is no better time to write from the heart. Don’t be afraid to be open, honest and share your emotions with those present. There is no right or wrong way to write a eulogy, your speach is simply a chance to share memories and highlights of the deceased’s life with those who cared about them the most.
Achievements, Key Events & Humour
Often the format of a eulogy will include a brief history regarding the deceased, focusing on any major achievements or highlights. It is common to refer to friends and family and those they treasured the most. Many eulogies will also recount stories about the deceased – sometimes these are humorous to lighten the atmosphere and enable people to remember them fondly.
Discuss with your vicar or the person holding the funeral ceremony the amount of time you have to deliver your eulogy. Then practice reading what you have written to make sure it fits within the timescale.
On the day, take a deep breath, try not to rush or mumble and know that everyone present is there to support you during this difficult time. People are not there to listen to a word-perfect speech – they are there to share in your memories and pay their respects.Go Back